If you are currently thinking of leaving home, friends, family, your university, you boss, your cat or dog, your flowers on windowsills, your favourite chair… even more… family dinners, your boyfriend, the sound of the morning street of your home town, the Russian “devushka, peredajte za projezd” or American “grab sandwiches, honey!” you should definitely read the post. Because if you are here you are thinking of leaving the country you are now leaving in to find 1) a better life, 2) better paid job; 3) inspiration; 4) the change of settings; 5) experience… maybe 6) a husband… oops Have I guessed?
Leaving home seems easy within the borders of the home country, a little bit difficult and cloudy while gathering dozens of docs for the Embassy, inspiring while booking a ticket, tingling while crossing the border with the other country and…. what the fuck terribly difficult after crossing of the line designating the end of one state and the beginning of the state where the destination – your DREAM Nr1 lays.
This is a black scenario if you are not prepared. I followed this scenario when I left my country for Poland. I think you could avoid my mistakes if you carefully read the remarks below.
So, let’s go through a Question List that will help us find the vulnerable things.
- WILL I FEEL HOMESICK? MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS ARE FAR AWAY….
Definitely, not if you socialize and try to establish contacts with other people. People need to socialize by nature, we are social creatures and should be in the group of others who are similar to us to feel satisfied emotionally.
You are on the board of the plane that during next hours will cross the Atlantic or in the train where local Ukrainian smugglers try to hide cheap Ukrainian cigarettes, start the conversation, suggest help or a sandwich. I have got to know a lot of people who headed for the same city as me and even studied in the same university. In the worst case you will make fun during your journey, or meet for a coffee in the town later in better case.
The more contacts you make the more safe you will be abroad. Remember you will have no friends for some time in the beginning in a completely new country, so good to start from the first minute of your journey and there will be plus one acquaintance. You will have to be more open-minded and sociable during your stay in the country. Unless you do it you will feel homesick forever staying abroad.
2.WHERE WILL I STAY WHEN I ARRIVE THERE?
Good to count for at least 2 weeks in the hotel before you find something. Use local newspapers that have ads on renting the flats or find out which internet sites have such ads. Look for FB groups something like “Accomodation in Warsaw”; search in the search machine “Flats in Warsaw for rent”. Better if you search in a local language. Here important ! don’t count on agencies, cause they frequently fool people. It looks like this: you pay the agency quite good money, they may use the sources to find the offers that you can find and use on your own (they have no or a very of small number of exclusive offers), you will have to contact the owner of the flat, agree on the date to come and see the flat, if you are satisfied, sign the agreement. There no guarantees for a successful deal and you will not probably find a flat in several days.
- WHAT IF I GET ILL?
Do not worry. If you have a national insurance that’s all right. Do not count on the insurance you get at home – this one usually covers only urgent cases – if you are run by the bus and your leg falls somewhere to the adjacent bushes. Unfortunately, you need this one if you apply for the visa. Buy it but when you arrive at the destination point consider the national insurance companies that will cover the visit to the doctor even if you have a pure headache. Away read the agreement and make sure the insurance covers everything.
- HOW WILL I MANAGE MOVING AROUND THE CITY I DO NOT KNOW?
Better to have a navigator, especially if you are of female gender. Personally, I had a lot of problems finding places without a map. If I had had a navigator in my phone I would have had much less stress during the first days. Buy a mobile SIM card that have some Internet transfer to be used. If you need to quickly look something up, you will never get lost.
- HOW WILL I COOK ON MY OWN?
Look up some recipes and practice at home. after the first month of cooking on your own you will be able to compete with the best cooks, especially when in the fridge there is only one egg and few spoons of jam are left
- HOW WILL I LOOK FOR A JOB ABROAD?
Again – at home find out which sites contain ads with job offers, send your CV from home and arange appointments. Remember you have to be sure you can work in the framework of your visa. More often you will have to get a work permit. If you are a student do not count on 40-hour working week. There are laws that specify the permitted number of days to work for students.